Grief
Mama
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Today, I reflect on my mother, aka MAMA, who passed from death to life on October 24, 2018.
I recall the strength of her character as a testament to her faith, in the Triune nature of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit, through whom she was able to endure the hard trials of life.
As I grieve today, not as those who have no hope, i hear her voice reminding me to, “wait on the Lord, be of good courage and he will strengthen your heart” - Psalm 27:14.
As Jesus said to Martha, in Johm 11:25, he says to me, and to all who grieve, “I am the resurrection and the life; those who believe in me, even though they die, will live” Sleep on Mama! I’ll see you on the other side!💕🌺❤🌸🙏🏾
Let's talk about it
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Grief is a wide topic covering many kinds of losses spreading through an infinite range of emotions making a single definition for grief difficult. However, I want to provide a working definition of what 'grief' is.
Definition: Grief is a natural process of the human experience that is neither a disease or illness. A definition I find helpful is 'grief is an normal human reaction to loss / change in a person's life. The Grief Recovery Method says it this way, "Grief is an emotional experience and no matter how hard society tries to act as if sad feelings don't exist ~ they do!"
Elizabeth Kubler Ross suggests that grief manifest along emotional states that is experienced by a person diagnosed with a terminal disease and the loved ones of that person diagnosed. Kubler Ross identities these stages as: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance as the grieving learns how to live with and cope with loss; however, these stages have been modified to be "shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depressing, testing and acceptance."
The truth is that everyone responds to grief in different ways and the stages do not manifest in a linear way as an individual copes with the loss they experience.
Want to talk about how this grief definition matches up with your experience? We are just an email away, at info@colmrw.com.
Remember to Hold On Pain Ends (HOPE)
Healing after loss
Healing after loss
Healing after loss
Learning to trust will be for all of us the means by which the root system rows firm and nourishes the tree of life ~Elaine M. Prevallet
All winter, in many parts of the country, the earth has lain brown and barren-or covered with chilling snow.
But beneath that apparently lifeless earth the roots of plants have maintained themselves in a necessary hibernation. Then, come spring, year after year (with a little help from us!), the earth comes to life again, and blooms with beauty and nurturance.
Maybe this can be a model of trust for us in these new-green months of early summer-that the season of depression and sorrow will, in time, give way to a renewed love of life and appreciation for its gifts-including the gift of life and the legacy of the one we have loved.
Letting go....
Healing after loss
Healing after loss
God never says, you should have come yesterday; he never says, you must come again tomorrow, but today if you will hear his voice, today he will hear you...
He bought light out of darkness, not out of lesser light; he can bring summer out of winter, though there is no spring. All occasions invite his mercies, and all times are his seasons ~ John Donne.
What do you think we must do,what must we believe, to feel any sense of ease from the pain of this grief? Working through our grief may seem to us as if we are jumping through hoops or that we must believe some doctrine to get through the pain. Our loved one(s) who died may have given the tangible expression of love we came to know. However, is it possible, that in the midst of your grief, you come to accept that God, who created all things out of nothing, is the same God who can make your grief bearable?
If you believe this truth, perhaps, you can begin to take small steps to hand over some of your grief to God, as you are led out of darkness into the trusting and loving arms of a dear friend. Since no burden is too heavy or too light; no anxiety too inconsequential or monumental, how about releasing it to Jesus in the same way a child reaches out to a trusted parent when they are afraid of the dark?
"May I not clutch my grief so tightly to myself that i cannot receive help when it is offered."